The Alienators' Playbook - A Wake-Up Call on Parental Alienation

This is exposure — not instruction.

1. Destroy the other parent’s image.
“I’m protecting you.” “You know how they are.” Plant fear, twist facts, erase good memories.

2. Control access.
Cancel visits. Block messages. Make contact seem risky or inconvenient.

3. Weaponise loyalty.
“If you loved me, you’d stay.” “Don’t betray me.” Force the child to choose — love becomes a test.

4. Reward rejection.
Praise anger. Encourage disrespect. Make hostility feel like loyalty.

5. Erase allies.
Distance grandparents, friends, teachers — anyone who encourages the other parent. Undermine therapists who try to help.

6. Weaponise the system — and brainwash in the meantime.
File false or exaggerated claims. Drag out court battles. Use custody hearings and mental health evaluations to punish contact and legitimise exclusion. Meanwhile, rehearse lines and plant doubt — conditioning the child to repeat accusations, rewrite memories, and believe the other parent is dangerous. The legal fight becomes cover for emotional manipulation.

7. Play the victim.
Cry. Blame. Claim you’re the one harmed. Use emotion to sway family, professionals, and judges.

Why it matters

This is manipulation, not parenting. The casualty is the child, forced to choose love like an accusation. Recognise these tactics. Call them out. Protect the child’s right to both parents — Parental Alienation is child abuse!